Ass is always in session when it comes to men and sad to say no matter how good of a woman we are, we can’t make them stay if they don’t wanna be kept. Now, this guy that you believe you have wonderful chemistry with will take you out, make you feel like he really likes you. You’re talking to this guy for weeks, consistently, you let him smash a few times or less, you even get a weekend trip out of him (maybe). He done buttered you up, got you open, and then boom! Out of nowhere, the bullshit happens and you can’t understand why. You’re feeling a way because you done told all your friends about him so now it’s hard for you to explain to them that he’s not around anymore and you don’t know why.
Women often times let their loneliness lead them into a situation that is so hard to get out of because of what we yearn for inside. Then we come across this guy that isn’t as interested in us as we want him to be, but we fool ourselves into thinking that we are in something meaningful. Always take into consideration the frame of mind you’re in when you meet a man. You were “single” looking for “something.” Remember the talks you and him had, did he say anything that made you think that the two of you were going to take this courtship any further? You can’t fool yourself into believing something that is not there! You can’t force a man to love you or like you no matter how great of woman that you think you are. Sure, you are deserving of a good man but that man may not be ready! He may have his own reason for not wanting to be with you in that way and you just have to accept the fact that he doesn’t want to go any further than a friendship or the occasional trip to the bedroom with you. And there is nothing wrong with that so long as you can be real about it and not make an ass out of yourself!
There is a thin line between being a mature adult and going after the guy you like and being a stalker or acting desperate. When you feel as if you are going too hard to get his attention, nine times out of ten you are and he’s not feeling you like that. He doesn’t want you in the way that you want him to want you. That’s just how the shit goes. We’re not going to get what we want all the time. You have to be a big girl and let it go and move on. Don’t let your ego and pride have you out there chasing some nigga just to prove a point to your friends.
Sometimes we don’t want to admit to ourselves that the guy we like doesn’t quite like us like that anymore or even worse, admit to ourselves that this nigga done jumped us off. It happens to the best of us, it sucks, it hurts but the issue is not how he treated you, but how you go about treating yourself afterwards. Women sometimes tend to turn a blind eye to some of the things that they know isn’t right, but because they don’t want to deal with the so called “embarrassment” of a failed relationship, we live a lie to appease the masses. But what about the shit you gotta deal with behind closed doors when the lights and cameras go off and there is no one around to put on a show for, or even worse what about having to deal with yourself when you look in the mirror? Losing a man or having a relationship fail is the least of our problems ladies! Get over it! Save yourself some dignity by gracefully bowing out of a situation you know is not working out right! Now, if you’re unsure about where you stand with a guy, here are a few tips to help you recognize if duke is feeling you or not. If you can identify with any of these points then you know that “He aint fuckin’ with you like that.”
1. If he can go 7 days without calling you then he can go 7 more, girl bye!
If he keeps coming up with excuses then excuse yourself! If you always have to call him first there is a problem! And another thing, don’t think he cares because you have good pussy. Sweetie, you and half of the women in the world share this same sentiment. I want women to stop saying they put it on a nigga. Your pussy is good until the next one comes along. Say it with me. “There’s no better pussy than new pussy!” Men MEAN that shit with all of their hearts! So now, because you’re so caught up on your sex game and this dude did not call you, you’re feeling a way. He didn’t call by day 3 and then by day 5 you send him a text like, “hello you alive?” He hits you back with a dry “yeah” that’s it. No convo, no smiley faces, nothing. He is not playing hard to get sweetie, so get that thought out of your head. Men don’t play hard to get. He’s not feeling you! A man will not let 2 days go by let alone 7 go by before he calls you to say hello at the very least if he’s digging you like that. And of course he’ll come up with excuses because some men just don’t know how to say what it is, they like to play hoe games. So what you need to know and understand is that a man WILL make time for what he finds important and if he’s not making time for you then there is your answer. And if the only time he makes time for you is to get pussy then there goes another answer. It’s really on you to be a woman about your shit and not make excuses but accept it for what it is and when you do, either stay and play or move on. It happens to the best of us so don’t take it personal!
2. He never comes to see you when you’re on your period.
You and ole boy got the crazy sexual relationship and as the myth goes, women equate sex with love. (In most but not all cases) So you’re sexing this man crazy and you’re feeling him and you believe that he is feeling you, and why wouldn’t you think that with all of the intimacy you share. But if you get the following phone call, just know that he’s not feeling you as much as you might think:
Man: Hey what’s up whatchyou doin’
Woman: Nothing (all giddy smiling looking stupid)
Man: I wanna see you
Woman: Okay so come see me?
Man: You got your period?
Woman: Yeah, why?
Man: Nothing, aight cool I’m call you back.
And then he doesn’t call you back. About 2 hours go by and you text him like, “what’s up you still coming through?” and he doesn’t respond or tells you that he’ll let you know later. That means NO he ain’t coming over, he found a bitch who wasn’t bleeding and TWO, you need to know that you are just a piece of ass to him. If a man is feeling you it does not matter what your situation is, he is going to come by, pick you up, take you out or simply stay home with you and enjoy your company. You know in your heart that He aint fuckin’ with you like that” And all you are, is a piece of ass. So if you like it, I love it, just don’t be a dumb bitch and try to make it bigger than what it is.
3. You’re Never around His Closest Peeps.
You may have met one or two of his boys on the humble because you guys were out late one night and drove past his old projects or some shit and he saw his mans and them. Guys are nosey so they’re going to wonder who he has in the car. He’ll show you off real quick. You’re in the car smiling looking all stupid, happy to meet his peeps ass broad. Slow down, it was an accident and it will never happen again. You are a secret, he probably has a girl and he ain’t fittna get caught out there with you, no matter how good ya head game is. So stop sucking his dick. You won’t feel as lousy if he disses you, if you didn’t offer up so much of yourself. Open your eyes and realize that you’re only around his closest people when it’s an accident. He aint fuckin’ with you like that.”
4. He Keeps You in the Car.
You ever see a guy get out of his car and talk to his friends for like an hour and you see that dumb bitch sitting in the passenger side the entire time? You are the dumbest bitch EVER! NO real chick is going to sit there and let her guy have an hour long conversation while you’re in the car texting, looking at your lipstick a million times, aggy, can’t say nothing, hot in the car, gotta pee, hungry, acting like you’re not mad, meanwhile he over there on memory lane with his peoples. He’s telling his boys, yeah I got this bitch in the car…he does not respect you and “He aint fuckin’ with you like that!”
First of all if the guy is feeling you like that, you’ll know his friends so you won’t have to sit in the car. You’ll be outside talking to his friends as well. Or if he’s going to be quick, he’ll tell you so, and he’ll say what he has to say and come right back to you. But if he got out the car and the entire Mr. C “Throwback at Noon” countdown done came on and went off, and you are still in that car, waiting for this guy to come back to you, you are a dumb bitch and he is not feeling you. Hell you ain’t feeling yourself to let that go down!
5. You only know his nick name.
Grown ass woman calling a man by his nickname is atrocious to me. How are you calling your man “Guns or Butter?” What is his real name? Did you even ask? You had to have asked. I can’t see how you didn’t ask after him telling you some wild shit like that. If you ask the man for his government name and he doesn’t give it to you, why on earth would you continue fucking with him? You opened your legs before getting his first name. Damn it’s the least you could do before you fuck a nigga. What part of the game is that? You have to know that at this point “He aint fuckin’ with you like that.”
6. If the man has you on a schedule.
Meaning he only sees you on certain days, or certain times of the day, for a certain AMOUNT of time on these days, chances are he has someone else! Use your head! “He aint fuckin’ with you like that”
7. If you have to constantly have “Talks”
Reminding this man about how “lucky he is to have you” and what he will lose if he doesn’t straighten up. Or if you have to constantly beat him in the head about marriage or even worse, giving him an ultimatum of marrying you or leaving you, you already have your answer and giving him the ultimatum is just the escape route he needed! “He aint fuckin’ with you like that”
8. If he isn’t having sex with you anymore.
And you are sure that your hygiene is on point, your body isn’t looking like an old Karl Kani pocket, your satisfying his needs and all bases are covered and dude still ain’t tryna hit it, that’s because he’s just not that into you anymore. Take that L like a lady. “He aint fuckin’ with you like that”
9. What’s Beef?
If you have to constantly beef with him to take you out or spend time with you, chances are he doesn’t want to be around you! “He aint fuckin’ with you like that.” All of these schedules and Ultimatums in relationships #NoBueno. When you meet someone, make it very clear what it is you are looking for out of the relationship and if he doesn’t share your values, move on! Don’t try to change him! And if he acts as if he is down for what your down for and he begins to switch lanes in the middle of the relationship then dammit, get out the car! Don’t switch lanes with him if you know that is not what you signed up for! His destination is not yours! Ladies, stop ignoring the signs that are there to let you know you are in a relationship by yourself. You know when a man is not feeling you like that. If you’re dealing with a man and you feel alone, that means you are alone. That man has left the building. You should leave too.
10. He isn’t supportive of your goals
It’s as simple as this. He doesn’t give a fuck about where your trying to go in life and he could give a damn about your future because he’s not trying to be a part of it….