In today’s age of dating apps and speed dating, you might be going on more first dates than you’re counting. Nevertheless, the anticipation and excitement of going on a first date can be nerve-wracking. Even if you’ve had previous relationships, you’re bound to feel butterflies in your stomach and get goosebumps before you go on a first date with someone.
This is understandable considering that you want to make a great first impression. Also, it increases your chances of getting a second date (if you want it, that is). While it doesn’t have to be perfect, you need to make sure that the date is enjoyable and worth remembering. Plus, you have to make the other person comfortable and let them have a great time as well.
No matter how many dates you’ve been to, the nerves and jitters of a first date never leave you. Here are a few tips to help you enjoy a remarkable first date:
1. Choose a Casual Setting
The last thing you want is to meet someone new for a movie followed by dinner and quickly realize that they’re not your type. You’ll have to endure their company for as long as the movie lasts. Worse still, you’ll need to have dinner with them after the movie gets over. It can be very emotionally exhausting.
That’s why, as a ground-rule, you should select a neutral location such as a local cafe or bar for your first date. In the worst case, you can make an excuse and quickly leave after a cup of coffee. A friendly and casual location can also help ease the pressure of a first date. It can help you open up more freely to the other person and vice versa. You can always head over to a more glamorous or intimate setting if you hit it off with your date.
2. Dress Right for the Occasion
Keeping things casual doesn’t imply that you have to show up dressed like a slob. You need to show the other person that you’ve made an effort to get ready for the date. It can go a long way to help you make a striking first impression the moment you see each other.
Having said that, you should also know how to dress right depending on when and where you’re going for the date. Wearing a tuxedo to a hipster cafe may not be the most desirable thing. Likewise, wearing a cocktail gown for a picnic in the park will fetch attention, but for the wrong reasons.
The key is to use your judgment and pick an attire that isn’t too loud or too shabby. Also, irrespective of what you wear, make sure you’re comfortable in it. A first date isn’t the right occasion to experiment with your fashion choices. If you aren’t comfortable wearing heels, ditch that pair of stilettos and wear comfy sneakers instead.
3. Let the Conversation Flow
There’s nothing more torturous than a dull and boring date. Irrespective of whether you’re looking for a casual fling or a long-term relationship, make sure you engage in a meaningful conversation with the other person. Studies have shown that interesting conversation starters work far better than corny pick up lines for wooing your date.
Cut the small talk and delve deeper into their likes, dislikes, hobbies, preferences, etc. to get to know them. Ask them about their day and share your interests and aspirations too. It is, however, important that you don’t overstep your boundaries and ask extremely personal or intimate questions. Also, avoid talking excessively about sensitive topics such as your ex or theirs.
4. Draw The Line
Are you comfortable holding hands on your first date? Would you mind sharing food with your date? Are you open to the idea of talking about what went wrong in your past relationships? While there isn’t a thumb-rule for setting boundaries on a first date, you need to decide what you’re okay with. Don’t be afraid to say “no” and bring the date to an abrupt halt if you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
5. Manage Your Expectations
Your first date doesn’t have to be perfect or even the best date of your relationship. The point is to have a good time and find out whether you’d like to keep seeing the other person. So, cut down on your expectations and pre-conceived notions. Instead, go with the flow, have fun, and find out where the date is headed.
What Happens on the Day After?
So, you’ve had a great first date and feel like it’s the beginning of a new romance. But what’s should be your next move? Well, it depends on how your first date went. If you date promised to call you a couple of days later, don’t get in touch with them during that period. You don’t want to come across as overbearing or desperate.
On the other hand, you might have already fixed a second date and are now contemplating whether you should take things forward. It might be a good idea to talk to a close friend and voice your concerns.
Likewise, you can consult a psychic reader to get a glimpse of the future course of the relationship and find out where it’s headed. It can help you make up your mind and be prepared for what’s in store. It is, however, crucial to find psychics you can trust and easily open up to.