No wonder so many women are complaining men disrespect them. We disrespect ourselves! A study has concluded what men have known for centuries; single women would rather go after men who are already in a relationship then single men. Apparently we get a kick out of being a man stealer.
According to a study done by Oklahoma State University, a woman feels powerful and “worthy” if she can lure a man away from his current partner. That’s all cute when you are fifteen, but as a grown woman it’s trifling. And it’s one of the biggest reasons men get away with treating us like we are disposable. If you are over 25 and still messing around with men who are already taken you need to work on your self esteem.
The study went further to say that some single women may try to lure a man away from his current partner because the fact that he is in a relationship proves that he has the ability to commit and he has already been broken in. (Oh really? If he leaves her for you, then how committed was he really?)
All this is not news to men. Most men know their stock goes up when they have a woman. A man with serious game keeps his main chick laced just to get himself “extra” coochie. His woman looking good and being well taken care of, doesn’t deter the next chick, it makes her work harder to get with this “unavailable” man. A man with serious game also knows that if he tells a chick he has a woman and he isn’t leaving her, the chick will bring her “A” sex game thinking that it will “convince” him to leave his woman.
What happens next is so predictable… The main chick suspects the dude is cheating and learns some new sex tricks and steps up her sex game, maybe even starts letting him get some ass (anal sex) on a regular- while the side chick is sexing dudes brains out; she may even bring a few of her friends to the party (threesomes- learn how to plan one) all in an effort to try to get him to leave his real woman… The dude is knee deep in coochie and loving it. The Wifey ends up with a heartache and a sore ass. The jump off gets a yeast infection and probably her assed kicked when wifey catches up with her (which she deserves.) Or worse they end up with a “Lil Wayne” family.
But at the end of the day both women look stupid and the man gets his cake and eats it too. And real talk, he’s not to blame, it’s us as women who have no self respect or self esteem.
As long as there are women who are willing to play 2nd or accept ‘situationships’ then men will continue to play us and we will continue to look stupid and even worse be heartbroken.