The truth of the matter is, women should date a man according to how he treats his mother and all of the women in his family be it good or bad. When you meet a guy, check out how the women in his family interacts with him and how he reciprocates that treatment. If his sisters and mother are in good standing and they adore him, then go for him! If he has a steady relationship with his daughter or any of his kids, he’s a gem. This is one of the first attributes of a man that women need to check out. See what he’s about, see what his daddy is about, find out his family history by simply asking! Talk to him and double check his background. After all, its what grown people do right? I mean shit if you can open your mouth to suck his di*k then you can open your mouth to ask him very important questions.
Now suffice to say that everything checks out, you move into a more serious relationship with said male, and you realize that him and mommy have a relationship far beyond your wildest imagination. Yes! he adores his mom in a way that makes you wanna say, I love this man I wanna marry him (dramatization). Your so open off of the love between mother and son that it catapults you into thoughts of babies, marriage and longevity until you realize that your man and his mama is on some real live bullshit.
Everything you go through, say or do, he shares with his mother which is fine, but Mama-Love doesn’t know how to chill! She becomes the 3rd party in the relationship. She begins to voice her opinion on your relationship with her son and he doesn’t stop her from interfering during arguments, he doesn’t stop her from getting outta pocket toward you. Your man listens to everything his mother says!!! On date night, he brings mama to the restaurant too sometimes! Valentines Day, mama gotta get chocolate too, arguments, mama is calling your cell phone wanting to discuss with you what happened between you and her son.
You bite your tongue as much as you can, you try to rationalize the relationship between mother and son as much as possible, you don’t want to look like a home wrecker, you love your man, you love that he loves his mama but she is getting on your fucking nerves and your ready to lace the baked macaroni with some “Bitch Don’t Kill My Vibe” cheese.
Your man is not budging on this matter. That’s his mama and he is her boy. Case closed.
What do you think of “mama’s boys?” Do we love em or leave em? When is enough enough?
A ratchet type bitch’ll say, “Well let him go fuck his mama then.” But ladies, really, how do you deal with a self-proclaimed mama’s boy?
Truth is, as much love as their is between them both, there is a lack of respect. Mom, being a grown ass woman should know when to step back and take her foot out of another woman’s shoes. And Baby Boy needs to respect his relationship and not allow his mother to butt her nose in, even if he told her some shit that went down between the two of you. Most mama’s boys lean on their mother’s because they NEVER plan on really growing up…mommy is their crutch. A man that loves his mother and values her opinion is one thing but a man who allows his mother to run his life and relationships is another… and its not healthy. I’d be ratchet and probably tell him to go fu*k his mama too… LOL but what would you do?
Author, Deputy Editor of Don Diva Magazine