You’ve seen the rants on Twitter, “a ni**a gotta spend $200 and more on a date.” You see the images on television, everybody’s rich. You know how first dates are supposed to go down: in a restaurant that sits 40,000 feet below the sea in a submarine while a mermaid swims to you and refills your flute with Dom Perignon, preferably at a table not too far from Jay & Bey. And in order for you to even consider going out on a date with him he needs to give you at least $500 up front to get that weave together and if he really wants to see you he needs to give you money to pay the baby sitter as well. And then you wonder why you either a) you can’t get a date or b) you get fucked and dumped after the date and he spent under $100 and U.O.E.N.O.
Some women are just unrealistic when it comes to dating and sadly enough have no idea what a date is. Immediately some women feel as if they have to give up pussy on the first date, so if that’s the case he better be spending at least $2-300. That’s just ridiculous and that’s your problem for being uneducated about what a date really consists of. A date is merely two people going out for some alone time, preferably some place quiet to see how compatible they are and sure if the date is going well and the energy is flowing, why not step it up and go someplace where you can possibly dance, flirt, throw back a couple of drinks and share a good night kiss at the end, nothing more nothing less. And it is quite possible that as the night goes on and this man is having a great time with you, he may wind up spending a few hundreds, not because you look like you just stepped off a French Montana video set as an extra by the pool, but because he is genuinely having a good time with you. But to make it a prerequisite in order for a man to go out with you is just dumb and childish as all hell. Stressing how much a man spends on a first date is nothing more than something for these foolish women to brag about. “Yeah we went to Mr. Chows and the bill was $400.” And I guess that’s the price of your pussy as well. Because number one, no man is going to just bust up $400 on a date without getting something in return, so after he spends that $400 which I highly doubt, he will get some pussy and you will not hear from him again. Any man that spends $400 on a first date clearly has that money to burn so you’re nothing but an investment for the night in his eyes. He knows you’re not trying to get to know him, you just want him to spend money on you. And in your eyes you’re worth every dollar spent. But what you think of yourself means nothing in the eyes of a man who thinks you’re a money grabbing dragon. His goal now is to diss you, because you’re trying to play hoe-games with him… and men don’t like hoe games, they just like hoes, no batteries included.
So ask yourself, be real with yourself, are you really trying to date and get to know a man or are you just trying to get him to spend all this money so you can brag to your friends or feel validated by the amount of money he spent on the first date, or any date?
Because a date isn’t even about the money that’s being spent, it’s about the quality of the time spent. You can have an expensive date and sit across from a complete jackass at the dinner table all night, one who doesn’t talk, compliment you, ask you shit about yourself, offers you any information on himself, degrades you, talks shit about your weave and tells you he can see your spanx under your tight ass dress. But he spent a lot of money so the date is good right? Or, you can get a so called cheap date from a man who wants to grab two slices of pizza and a bottle of wine and sit in a park and talk to you til dark because he wants to get to know you on date one, not impress you, so he can decide if your even worth a second date let alone and expensive one…
You bitches need to get a grip for real. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man to spend some money on you, don’t get me to lying. But just as much as you feel you’re worth it, he has to see it too… and besides… if you really felt you were worth it you wouldn’t be so thirsty to get it on the first date, because you know it’s going to come soon. Pricey dates come with a price and it’s normally not a nice one. It’s just a date, have fun and act like your use to a man spending cash on you and be easy.
If your worth it you won’t have to thirst for it or play games to get it. He’ll spend it on you trust…
Grow up bitches….
Deputy Editor of Don Diva Magazine, Author