Losing someone special to us is heart-breaking. You catch a glimpse of them where they couldn’t be and immediately miss them. The grief alone can make you feel like you are drowning, but you do need to move forward. Finding new ways to live your day without them is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do, but you owe it to yourself and to your loved ones to do it. Adopting healthier ways to grieve and ways to remember them is the best way to get started. You are not leaving them behind; you are simply adjusting to a new reality. So long as you remember them, they will never really leave, and you will adjust each day and once again be able to live your life to its fullest.
If you need ideas about how to remember that special someone and how to grieve in a healthy manner, start here.
Plan Their Final Resting Place
You don’t need to have a tombstone to remember your loved one, but you should think carefully about their final resting place. If your loved one liked the idea of having their ashes scattered or for them to be buried in your yard or at their favorite spot, then cremation offers you a lot more flexibility. You can choose a variety of cremation urns from www.commemorativecremation.com and then pick a beautiful spot that would allow you to feel at peace and connected to that loved one every time you visit. It doesn’t matter if that place is in a cemetery, at a park, or in your own backyard.
Carry a Token of Them
Carrying a token on your person that reminds you of them is an excellent way to keep their memory alive. It could be their wedding ring that you wear around your neck or it could be their earrings or the keychain they used. There are stories of a dead loved one’s shirts being transformed into a quilt instead of being donated or thrown out. There are many lovely ideas of how to take something your loved one used to own and make it into a comforting reminder for you.
There is nothing wrong with talking about that special someone after they have passed. In fact, reminiscing about who they were when they were alive, from funny stories to anecdotes that you remember, is a great way to keep them alive for you and can also help the new people in your life get to know the person that was so important to you. Talking about them in a healthy, positive way is the ultimate goal, and when you start doing it without feeling the cloud of grief over your head, you will know that you are finally moving on.
Your loved one would want you to live well. They would want you to be happy. They would want the best for you. If they were alive, they would be right there next to you, trying to make you feel better and get back up on your feet. The best thing that you can do for them and for yourself is to live well. Do the things that you both wanted to but never got around to. Try new things.
Every time you think, “they would have loved this,” you are keeping their memory alive while also living life to its fullest.